Both your brain and your body can cause sexual problems.  When the problem is weak desire or function, and the cause is your body, we  call this Kidney Deficiency. This is true for both men and women

As the Kidneys are said to be the repository of qi, they are very often named in deficiency conditions. However, these Kidney deficiencies do NOT indicate kidney disease of any kind in the Western sense.

Kidney deficiencies are usually caused by consuming more energy than is transformed from food. The body must then “tap its reserves” (the Kidneys), and over time they become depleted. This pattern can often be traced to:

• Energy spent to heal physical trauma
• Overwork
• Excessive sexual activity
• Emotional excess
• Poor or insufficient sleep
• Failure to rejuvenate through rest or vacation
• Congenital deficiencies

The result of this Qi (energy) drain is low sex drive, impotence, erectile dysfunction, low sperm count, poor sperm motility, or premature ejaculation. Clues to Kidney deficiency is when fatigue is largely unrelieved by sleep and is accompanied by weakness in the lower back or lower body.

Kidney deficiency can also cause impotence. Anyone with hot flashes or other signs of “heat”, women with vaginal dryness, or men with low fluid volume in their ejaculate are likely to be Kidney Yin Deficient.

The following herbs are often used to treat Kidney deficiencies in  both men and women.  But be aware that these herbs are usually combined into formulas. Combining herbs can enhance their effects and also moderate any potential side-effects.

#1 Sexual Organ: The Brain

Stress and emotions can be a big part of this problem.  Weakened or exaggerated sexual desire, functional infertility, and impotence are often rooted in the mind.  No amount of tonifying the Yin or Yang will solve this.

If stress, worry, or anxiety are causing or worsening sex, Chinese medicine can help. Acupuncture can relax both body and mind, sometimes instantly. Herbs work too, but usually take a little more time to take effect.

Herbs that 'Relieve Constraint', "Settle the Spirit", and "Clear Heat from the Heart" are alternatives worth using along with therapy and before resorting to drugs or alcohol.